"No relationship is without stress, disappointment, problems or frustration. Regardless of whether you have been married for 50 years, dating for 6 months for anything inbetween I will guarantee that sooner or later you will make or have made one of the following relationship mistakes.
There are many more than the 20 listed, but after over 30 years presenting relationship seminars around the world, these are the most common ones.
Any of these do not have to cause the end of the relationship. But they often do because people
refuse to;
-Take responsibility for their own behavior.
-See their personal blind spots.
-Grow as a result of these challenges or behaviors.
-Accept their partner unconditionally.
-Admit their own personal agendas.
Here are the 20.
1. Taking the responsibility for other peoples' feelings, attitudes or emotions.
2. Carrying old baggage from the past into a new relationship.
3. Not managing conflict in a positive way.
4. Stuffing feelings, fears, desires, frustrations and emotions.
5. Not sharing your needs or desires with your relationship partner.
6. Spending too much time either in the future or the past.
7. Inadequate self-disclosure.
8. Unwillingness to accept the other person for who he/she really is.
9. Reacting to behavior - rather than the person behind the behavior.
10. Invalidating the other person's opinions, values, beliefs and/or attitudes.
11. Not managing your expectations or attachment to the other person's outcomes.
12. Inability to forgive yourself and/or the other person.
13. Seeing the other person as having faults rather than a reflection of your own expectations or prejudices.
14. Trying to change your partner.
15. One or both of you have low self-esteem.
16. Emotional manipulation like blame, guilt or anger.
17. Not maintaining a romantic outlook regardless of your age.
18. Always thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the street.
19. Not understanding the needs of different personality styles.
20. When one or both people have an out of control ego.
Remember it is easier to turn a friend into a lover than a lover into a friend."
BY Tim Connor who is World renowned speaker, trainer and best selling author. Tim is the best selling author of over 70 books including several international best sellers, Soft Sell
