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"HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
« on: June 07, 2009, 12:33:08 AM »
01.        Just say, “I’m sorry. I can't do this right now.” Use a sympathetic,
but compact tone. If pressured as to why, reply that it doesn’t fit with
your schedule, and change the subject. Most reasonable people will accept
this as an answer, so if someone keeps pressuring you, they’re being rude,
and it’s OK to just repeat, “I’m sorry, but this just doesn’t fit with my
schedule," and change the subject, or even walk away if you have to.

02.        If you’re uncomfortable being so hard or compact, or are dealing with
pushy people, it’s OK to say, “Let me think about it and get back to you.”
This gives you a chance to review your schedule, as well as your feelings
about saying "yes" to another commitment, do a cost-benefit analysis, and
then get back to them with a yes or no. Most importantly, this tactic
helps you avoid letting yourself be pressured into over scheduling your
life and taking on too much stress.

03.        If you would really like to do what they’re requesting, but don’t have
the time (or are having trouble accepting that you don’t), it’s fine to
say, “I can’t do this, but I can…” and mention a lesser commitment that
you can make. This way you’ll still be partially involved, but it will be
on your own terms.
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Re: "HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
« Reply #1 on: June 09, 2009, 02:38:03 PM »
Is it as simple as stated to say "No"? What if you are still on pressure even after refusing the opponent by uttering those words? Well, the strategies might work to some extent, I agree.

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Re: "HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
« Reply #2 on: June 09, 2009, 02:56:21 PM »
I agree with you also. It’s good always facing both agreement and disagreement.  May be we need to popularize “Motamot” in Bangla where we can deal with “mot” and “omot” nicely.

Please challenge me critically all the way to grow together.

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Re: "HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
« Reply #3 on: June 09, 2009, 11:32:30 PM »
I always love to say "NO" means Next Opportunity.

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Re: "HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
« Reply #4 on: June 12, 2009, 09:15:03 PM »
Thanks sir, your style and understanding of saying NO given a direction to add a new approach like “saying no positively!”

May be, how to say No is beyond 3 simple way but unlimited ways can be discovered.

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Re: "HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
« Reply #5 on: June 13, 2009, 10:07:33 AM »
Few days ago our Honorable chairman sir (BOG), said  "Always be +ve. Never look any thing -ve. U will loose lot but u will earn more." . I think this is one of the important key attitude of a successful person.
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Re: "HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
« Reply #6 on: June 13, 2009, 07:35:07 PM »
Dear Admin,

This is something really important for you people who are saying NO lots of time in a day. Saying No can be art as well if we can cope with Chairman’s idea about it including classical styles of saying NO properly or meaningfully or successfully…

Can you give any case study or event that creates lots of problem from improper expression of NO?

Practical examples can make this discussion livelier.

Can you?

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Re: "HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
« Reply #7 on: June 29, 2009, 08:50:10 PM »
Anyone can help to finalize the topic for publication?

We can plan to publish some selected discussion for general mass, are not using forum now. May be me the publication will help them to join us soon.

By means of this mail I am placing a request to honorable chairman to support the initiative if felt worthy.

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Re: "HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
« Reply #8 on: June 29, 2009, 09:10:50 PM »
You can upload this finalize topic to our own university blog. It will be more effective for faculty and students.

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Re: "HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
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« Reply #10 on: July 20, 2009, 11:42:22 AM »
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« Reply #11 on: May 12, 2010, 09:15:49 AM »
Need an excuse? Here are the top five ways to say no nicely:

1. "No." Sometimes, the best way to refuse is politely, but directly. If someone in your life is constantly asking you to do things they could easily handle themselves, a firm "no" is the only way to get them to stop. Another approach to problematic people with frequent requests is to tell them, "I know you'll do a great job handling it on your own."

2. "I'm in the middle of several other projects/commitments right now." Don't be afraid to tell people when you're busy. Most will respect your schedule and find another way to fulfill their requests for help. You shouldn't be expected to drop tasks you've already committed to in order to complete new ones.

3. "I need to focus on [my career, my family, my personal life] at the moment." If you're going through a difficult time in another area of your life that requires your attention, don't hesitate to refuse taking on extra requests. You don't necessarily have to explain your specific reasoning for taking a pass; just indicate that you

4. "I don't feel I'm the best person to handle that task." When you don't feel qualified to handle something requested of you, say so. Explain that you don't want to do a poor job, because you know this task is important to the person asking you to do it. Chances are, they want the task done well, too.

5. "I can't do it, but I know someone else who can." Only use this "no" form if you truly know someone who can not only handle the task, but has the time to do it. It's nice to be able to offer alternative help, but only if you can follow through on your offer. Referring people to someone else who won't be able to help either will be viewed as a brush-off; the person who originally came to you will think you never actually wanted to help them in the first place.

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Re: "HOW TO SAY NO"....3 simple ways!
« Reply #12 on: May 12, 2010, 10:03:51 AM »
Enjoying the discussion.

Yes, it is one of the toughest jobs of all the time to say NO. It is an artistic way to say NO to others, no doubt...& deserve a lot of endeavour to capture.

Someone can say no very positively, someone cannot. I believe, uttering NO (or giving explanation, why a particular task is not possible to perform) with A SMILING FACE is the most simple & effective way out.

Another problem, all the recipients can not react NO positively all the time. It varies from man to man. The important thing is to consider to whom we are saying NO. Then we can handle the matter accordingly.
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