Islam and Anger Management

[BRE SALAM SONY]

This is part two of the series I have been working on on anger.
The first article is entitled: “Islam and Anger Management (Part 1): What is your level of anger?“

Anger is something that happens to all of us. Prophet Jesus (s) was angered by the money changers in the Temple. Prophet Moses (s) was angered when he came down from the mountain, and found the tribes engaging in idolatry. Even the Prophet Muhammad (s) got angry at times–though very rarely. For example, in a hadith (Sahih Al-Bukhari, volume 8 #134), Zaid bin Thabit reports the following:

Allah’s Apostle made a small room (with a palm leaf mat). Allah’s Apostle came out (of his house) and prayed in it. Some men came and joined him in his prayer. Then again the next night they came for the prayer, but Allah’s Apostle delayed and did not come out to them. So they raised their voices and knocked the door with small stones (to draw his attention). He came out to them in a state of anger, saying, “You are still insisting (on your deed, i.e. Tarawih prayer in the mosque) that I thought that this prayer (Tarawih) might become obligatory on you. So you people, offer this prayer at your homes, for the best prayer of a person is the one which he offers at home, except the compulsory (congregational) prayer.”

Here are some techniques for controlling one’s anger.

1. Relaxation

Relaxation can be accomplished very easily through breathing deeply, and can, Insha Allah, help control and then soothe your anger.

Here are some simple steps:

* Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your “gut.”

* Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as “relax,” “take it easy” or even “Laa ilaaha ilallah (There is no God except Allah).” Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.

* Recite the following du’as:
(1) “I seek refuge with Allah from Satan, the accursed.” (A`oodhu billahi mina ash-shaytaani ar-rajeem). This du’a comes from the following agreed upon hadith: Sulaiman b. Sard said, “I was sitting with the Prophet (s) when two men abused each other and one of them became so angry that his face became swollen and changed. The Prophet (s) said, ‘I know a word that that will cause him to relax, and this is, “I seek refuge with Allah from Satan, the accursed.” (If he said these words) his anger will cool down.’ (Reported in Sahih Muslim and Bukhari)
 
(2) Allaahumma innee a`oodhu bika min hamazaati ash-shayaateen; wa a`oodhu bika rabbi an yahdhuroonee (O Allah, I seek refuge in You from the whisperings of devils; and I seek refuge in You from their presence around me).

(3) Astaghfiru Allah (I ask Allah for forgiveness) three times.

(4) Rabbi qinee sharra nafsee; rabbi qinee sharra sam`ee; rabbi qinee sharra basaree; rabbi qinee sharaa lisaanee (My Lord, save me from the evils of my own self; my Lord, save me from the evils of my hearing; my Lord, save me from the evils of my seeing; my Lord, save me from the evils of my tongue.) You can also simply make the following tasbeeh: Subhaan Allah, al-hamdu lillah, laa ilaha illa Allah, wa laa hawla wa laa quwwata illa bi-llah (Sublime is Allah; praise be to Allah; there is no god but Allah; there is no power or strength except by the will of Allah).”

* Visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination. I find that visualizing the Kabbah or Masjid An Nabawi or even a very beautiful landscape works for me.

* Practice these techniques daily until they become automatic when you’re in a tense situation.




MOHAMMAD ABDUS SALAM SONY
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Empty Hands of a Rich Man



An Arabian brother from Montreal, Canada narrated the following heart softening story about his friend's father who was very rich. He owned many buildings and lot's of properties. When he attained old age, he became very sick and was counting his last days. Few days before his death, the old man kept on saying "Ana faqir, Ana faqir" which means, "I am poor, I am poor." When his visiting children saw this, they took him around and showed him all his properties to assure him that he wasn't poor at all. But the old man kept on saying, "I am poor, I am poor." His children became confused and brought a local Muslim Scholar to see their father. After spending some time with the old man, the Scholar understood that the man is saying he is poor not regarding his wealth but regarding his good amal (deeds). This is because most of his life was spent only in acquiring wealth and now that he was on his death bed, he realized that he should have given more time to Allah. When that person was dieing, he was still saying Ana faqir.

So much time has gone from our lives in useless matters. From now on, we should not even waste one minute without remembering Allah as every remembrance of Allah will increase our position in the hereafter. So, why not be rich in the everlasting life?Empty Hands of a Rich Man
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[shibli]

We all get stressed. About small & big things. About our jobs, families, personal situations. We all deal with stress differently. When I'm stressed I close my eyes & silently say "La ilaha illa Anta Subhanaka inni kuntu minaaz zualemin; La ila ha illallah Muhammadar Rasul Allah" with such conviction like nothing else matters in the whole wide world & the stress for that moment simply goes away. This really works for me & I wanted to share it with you guys. Try it too

[ashik]

if we followl Quran, Rasul sunnah then we can make a peaceful world.

[BRE SALAM SONY]

yeas this is 100% true specs
i know when a person follow the quarn and hadis they are also love very happy and enjoyed in life.
thanks for replay all

thanks