If you think you are the only one with self esteem issues, you are not alone. Most people think that they are the only ones that have low self esteem while the truth of the matter is that most people at some time in their life suffer from self esteem issues. I mean really, who wants to walk around all victimy these days and say, “Poor me. I have self esteem issues?†Anyway, self esteem issues are a pretty good subject for our old friend denial to pop right in and cover up the whole thing from our conscious mind.
So if you want to check it out, ask yourself the following to uncover self esteem issues:
• Do you settle for way less than you want in a relationship?
• Do you absolutely never let anyone see you dressed less than perfectly?
• Or do you go the other way and dress pretty sloppily quite often?
• Do you work at jobs that are way beneath your talent ability or allow yourself to be way underpaid?
• Do you tell yourself that those kinds of jobs are all that’s available or that you’re only doing them temporarily but find that you’ve actually done them for years?
• Do you let your personal environment go to the point of severe clutter and either clean up only for visitors or keep people out of your home?
• Do you secretly feel your aren’t very talented?
• Do you sacrifice your wants and desires for others all or most of the time?
• I’m sure many people could add to this list of questions but these are ones I can think back to from my own severe self esteem issue days.
• The good news is you can change this. You can learn how to have higher self esteem. If you look around on the internet, you might run into statements like:
• • You just need to learn to love yourself and your life.
• Let go of any anger or fear you are holding onto and be grateful for all that you have already been blessed with.
• Forget about the past and the mistakes that you have made along the way. You can’t change them now and it will not accomplish anything by making yourself feel worse.
• They sound nice and maybe even easy. But how do you accomplish those ends?
• Look around this site at some of the tools. They might help you. Also, consider hiring a life coach or a therapist if your self esteem seem too severe for the help of a coach.
• But I can tell you from personal experience and experiences of my clients, that the opposite it is true. Believe that you can be the person that you have always wanted to be and find the ways to begin to reconstruct your life. If you increase your self esteem you can move on and begin to construct the life that you really want and deserve to have.
• Develop your strengths and use them to gain any knowledge that can help you in the direction that you would like your life to go in. High self esteem is not a luxury it is a necessity and the only thing that will allow you to accomplish all of your goals. Since self-esteem affects every facet of life, having a healthy, realistic view of yourself is important. You also deserve to like and respect yourself and to be happy with your life and who you are. And remember, high self esteem doesn’t mean that you’ve gotten too big for your britches — it means you value yourself.
