Frustration is a disappointed feeling, often including expressions of anger in an unhelpful or self-defeating manner. Frustration is about expecting the world and its inhabitants to be, act or react as you wish. In reality, things are as they are; so no amount of ranting and steaming is going to change that. What you need to change is your perspective, or angle, on events. If you suffer from long-term frustration, apathy, or are in a frustrating relationship or friendship, address the underlying problems and learn coping techniques that set you on the path toward healthy emotions.
Three easy ways of removing frustration:
[1] Learn what your triggers are. Do you get frustrated when you are forced to wait and do nothing? Do you feel angrier after a direct argument, or passive-aggressive behavior? When you recognize the type of situation that bothers you, or even more specific triggers such as traffic or certain people, you can try to escape those situations before they occur.
[2] Breathe deeply. Before you act out of anger or frustration, pause and a take a deep breath. Count to ten slowly as you breathe in, then count to ten again as you breathe out. Repeat as many times as you require, until you feel calmer and in control.
[3] Change your expectations of others. Try not to expect other people to behave in a certain way. Other people are formed from different experiences, and are not often willing or able to match your expectations of "correct" behavior. You do not need to be pleased by other people's behavior, but try to focus on controlling your own reaction, not their behavior.
Sayed Farrukh Ahmed
Assistant Professor
Faculty of Business & Economics
Daffodil International University
