30) She expresses her thoughts, feelings and needs in a respectful, mature manner and respectfully listens to other people's thoughts, feelings and needs.
31) She spends time with people she feels safe and aligned with.
32) She sets limits with others when she needs to. She can say "no" or "I need to change my mind" on occasion without thinking she is a terrible person.
33) She does not spend time comparing herself to others. She knows that everyone struggles and that nobody is better than or less than she is.
34) She does not give other peoples' opinions more weight than her own.
35) When confronted with disagreements, she values the other person's point of view and also checks in with herself to see if she agrees, disagrees, or needs more time to think about it.
36) She can hear and consider difficult feedback from others without attacking them or herself.
37) She can apologize to others and forgive herself for her humanness.
38) She can forgive others for being imperfect and move beyond relationship glitches.
39) She can be in her strength without being disrespectful to others. She can be in her softness without being disrespectful to herself.
40) She doesn't think she needs to be perfect at anything -- including any of the above!
Andrea Wachter is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and co-author of The Don't Diet, Live-It Workbook. Andrea has over 25 years of experience working with children, teens, adults, families and groups. She is passionate about helping people who are struggling with eating disorders, body image, substance abuse, depression, anxiety, grief and relationships. Andrea is an inspirational counselor, author and speaker who uses professional expertise, humor and personal recovery to help others. For more information on her book, blogs or other services, please visit:
www.andreawachter.com.
Thanks
Asit Ghosh
Senior Lecturer
Dept. of Textile Engineering
FE, DIU
