Some things should never be said―like these phrases. Here, what to say instead.
Donâ€™t say: â€œYou look tired.â€Donâ€™t say: â€œWow, youâ€™ve lost a ton of weight!â€
Why: It implies she doesnâ€™t look good.
Instead say: â€œIs everything OK?â€ We often blurt the â€œtiredâ€ comment when we get the sense that the other person feels out of sorts. So just ask.
Why: To a newly trim person, it might give the impression that she used to look unattractive.
Instead say: â€œYou look fantastic.â€ And leave it at that. If youâ€™re curious about how she got so svelte, add, â€œWhatâ€™s your secret?â€ Donâ€™t say: â€œYou look good for your age.â€
Why: Anything with a caveat like this is rude. It's saying, "You look great―compared with other old people. It's amazing you have all your own teeth."
Instead say: â€œYou look great.â€ Donâ€™t say: â€œI could never wear that.â€
Why: It can be misunderstood as a criticism. (â€œI could never wear that because itâ€™s so ugly.â€)
Instead say: â€œYou look so good in skinny jeans.â€ If you slip, say something like â€œI could never wear thatâ€¦because I wasnâ€™t blessed with your long legs.â€