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Title: React when Insulted or Teased
Post by: Shamim Ansary on July 22, 2010, 08:48:46 AM
There are always people who get their kicks by tormenting someone else. They enjoy insulting or teasing others, because they themselves are insecure. They are obviously completely jealous of something you have - your looks, luck or friends and family so just think wow that's a compliment! They get pleasure out of watching the person who they have insulted or teased squirm, feel uncomfortable or cry. Their main purpose is to get a reaction out of the other person. They are known as "Bullies". They look for a comeback, they expect it, so don't give it!

However you should also be advised that in America, and many other countries, it is a customary "initiation" procedure into a group. Often newcomers will be scolded, because they are newcomers, as a test of their resolve. Often friends will remark to other friends, “You’re so stupid!" in a joking, sarcastic way. It is your job to figure out if the other person is bonding with you via cynical sarcasm, or if their real intent is to publicly hurt you. If they are trying to “bully" you, you should follow the steps below:

1. When someone insults you, or remarks unfavorably about your looks or your clothes, just smile, and nicely say to the person, "You really think so?, I have been told my looks are very nice, but maybe I will have to change my hair style (or whatever they had made fun of)." Walk away. If you don't engage the person in a combative remark, he or she has nowhere else to go and has nothing else to say.

2. Remember that a person cannot fight or argue by himself. He needs someone to do this with. The only way anyone can hurt you is through physical contact. Words alone can only harm you if you allow them to.

3. Just turn around and walk away.If he/she insults you upon your intelligence, just stand there and very nicely tell him, "Oh you think so? Well maybe I will have to study more." Then walk away, holding your head up high.

4. Try not to show your feelings if you are insulted or teased. The more you act hurt, the more the insults will continue. The goal is to hurt you, but if you do not show you are hurt, it will stop. Sometimes they will continue for a while, but if you just show you don't care, they will eventually give up.

5. If someone insults you as BEING someone you're not, the best way to diffuse that is to sarcastically and grossly play out the part of who they're telling you are. Most of the time, people who insult others for being something, they are most afraid of being called that same thing themselves. Acting up as that person and saying "Hey you're my best buddy too!" or "you know you're my lover, right?" will make them stop quickly, and people around you will know you are kidding if you are wildly acting it out. Just don't hurt anyone in the process.
Title: React when Insulted or Teased: Tips
Post by: Shamim Ansary on July 22, 2010, 08:50:43 AM
>> Keep your cool when someone starts making nasty remarks to you or about you in your presence. Act as if he is not really hurting your feelings.

>> Answering back with any type of retort will only make the situation worse. It is best not to reply at all, smile and walk away.

>> When someone makes fun of the way you were doing something or if he/she makes fun of the way you were acting in class, just take that insult as a joke and laugh it off. Don't show that you were affected by the insult. This will, in a way, insult the person who is 'trying' to insult you.

>> Remember, if it is a close friend, don't go runaway, make a funny comment back and if you can't think of one, just say, sarcastically "harsh" or "Ooh...I'm so hurt!"

>> Remember: Annoy no one. If someone annoys you, get them to stop. If they don't, walk away.

>> If someone says something, ignore them. If I was talking to a wall the wall wouldn't reply back so I'd get bored and leave the wall alone. If I was talking to the wall and the wall somehow talked back I would keep talking because I know I'll get a reply. Same thing with bullies.

>> If you are a very hot-tempered person and don't respond well to teasing, it might be good to practice with a good friend who can help you to better respond to teasing.

>> If your friends are the ones that usually tease you, step back and evaluate your relationship with them. Do they really mean to make you laugh, or make you feel bad? Perhaps if they tease you so much, you should stop being friends with them.

>> Use a standard comeback: Really? (if you want to find out their motives). Just give them a weird look like 'Are you trying to hurt me?' (some people will back down). Whatever (same as walking away). If you have practiced wit say something that changes what they said so it's insulting them (why are you suddenly so interested in me being gay?).

>> Simply do not be insulted. Their remark is as insincere as flattery. If they want to have a problem with you, that is their problem.
Title: React when Insulted or Teased: Warning
Post by: Shamim Ansary on July 22, 2010, 08:54:08 AM
-- There are too many children getting shot by some hothead who enjoys tormenting others. It is best not to show them that you care by giving them a wise comeback to their nasty or insulting remarks!

-- Better to walk away, than to be carried away.

-- If the person considers it their job to "initiate" you into a group and is taunting you in a playful way, sometimes it is wise to utter a quick-witted remark
Title: Re: React when Insulted or Teased
Post by: ABM Nazmul Islam on June 16, 2014, 10:41:05 AM
this is the best way avoiding entanglement and get us aloof sinister condition...
Title: Re: React when Insulted or Teased
Post by: munira.ete on December 20, 2017, 05:56:19 PM
Thanks for sharing  :)