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Faculties and Departments => Faculty Sections => Topic started by: tanbir on January 02, 2013, 12:17:24 AM
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10 things that parents should never say to their children...
1. “You’re useless†or “You’re a failureâ€
It’s shocking how many parents say this to their children in a fit of anger.
2. “I know what’s best for youâ€
As a parent, you might feel like you really do know what’s best for your children, but using this phrase is not at all effective in convincing them that you're right.
3. “Because I said so!â€This is another phrase that’s unlikely to be persuasive.
Parents need to establish boundaries for their children, but “Because I said so†isn’t enough reason for children to be convinced that staying within those boundaries is a good idea.
4. “I told you soâ€It’s tempting for parents to say this when it turns out that their advice that their children had ignored was, in fact, correct.
If you’re a parent, I urge you to refrain from using this phrase. Saying “I told you so†is sure to annoy your children and to cause strain in the relationship.
5. “So clever!â€Here are some instances where parents might exclaim “So clever!â€:
A two-year-old keeps his or her toys after playing with them
A three-year-old says “Thank you†after receiving a present
A 12-year-old decides to learn about Einstein’s theory of relativity
Parents should emphasize character and values, while not neglecting the worth of hard work and a love for learning.
When parents praise their child, they should be specific, rather than just saying "So clever!"
For example, they could say "That was kind of you to help that lady carry her groceries" or "That was generous of you to share your toys with your friend".
6. “Why can’t you be more like…â€
It’s natural for parents to draw comparisons to other children, but doing so can cause psychological damage to their own children.
7. “I wish you weren’t my son/daughterâ€
Some parents say this when they’re feeling especially frustrated or upset with their children.
8. “You’re such a terrible boy/girl!â€
Children have a strange way of becoming the kind of person that their parents, as well as those closest to them, imagine them to be.
9. “You always…†or “You never…â€
When trying to correct their child’s behaviour, it’s much more effective for parents to point out specific instances or examples, rather than tell their child that “You always forget to do your chores†or “You never keep your promisesâ€.
10.“Don’t argue with meâ€
When parents say this during a disagreement, they cause their child to feel even angrier and less willing to obey or compromise.
Parents should reason with their child and explain their perspective calmly. It’s crucial that parents don’t lose their cool!
In closing…
As a parent, you have the ability to powerfully influence your children’s future and destiny.
What a noble yet daunting responsibility!
To all of you parents reading this article: I know you’re up to the challenge.
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True fact!!! Every parents should consider this matter.
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Thanks sir for your sharing.
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Its a fact that many parents used to say so. But they do not realize the after effect which will suffer more. So, parents must be careful about their attitude to their children.
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Nice post sir...
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very informative post. We must follow the post because we should sincere behave with our children.
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Very True. Every Parents should be careful...
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Yes, you're right. Parents should not utter any words that demotivate their children.
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I also think parents should be careful about this.
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good posting.
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thanks for this post
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good post