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Common Forum/Request/Suggestions / Married or not you should read this
« on: October 08, 2012, 01:35:46 AM »
“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

By: Ennaid Seyer

Common Forum / Love - An amazing fact
« on: August 04, 2012, 03:14:59 AM »

Her name is Katie Kirkpatrick, 21 yrs old. Next to her is her fiancé, Nick, 23. (Pic1)

This picture was taken prior to their wedding January 11th, 2005.
Katie has terminal cancer and spends hours in chemotherapy.
Here Nick awaits while she finishes one of the sessions...(Pic2)

Even in pain and dealing with her organs shutting down, with the help of morphine,
Katie took care of every single part of the wedding planning.
Her dress had to be adjusted several times due to Katie 's constant weight loss. (Pic3)

An expected guest was her oxygen tank. Katie had to use it during the ceremony and reception.
The other couple in this picture is Nick's parents, very emotional with the wedding and to see their
son marrying the girl he fell in love when he was an adolescent. (Pic4)

Katie , in a wheel chair listening to her husband and friends singing to her. (Pic5)

In the middle of the party, Katie had to rest for a bit and catch her breath.
The pain does not allow her to stand for long period of time. (Pic6)

Katie died 5 days after her wedding. To see a fragile woman dress as bride with a beautiful smile
makes you think... happiness is always there within reach, no matter how long it lasts.....
lets enjoy life and don't live a complicated life. Life is too short.
Work as if it was your first day.
Forgive as soon as possible.
Love without boundaries...
Laugh without control
and never stop smiling.
Please pray for those suffering from cancer.
We all have close to our heart.
Keep this going.

Prayers are always answered.

Life is too short to argue and desperate.

Common Forum / A rare picture of Ahsan Manjil
« on: August 02, 2012, 12:47:51 AM »

Honor guard at ease on the grounds of Ahsan Monjil , Dhaka awaiting the arrival of sir Fuller (1905 )


This should be posted in every school or kid's bedroom.
Love him or hate him , he sure hits the nail on the head with this!!!
Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about
eleven (11) things they did not and will not learn in school.

He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2: The world doesn't care about your self-esteem.
The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity.
Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: They called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault,
so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you
talk about how cool you thought you were: So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room..

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer.
*This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters.
You don't get summers off and very few employers
are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF.
*Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life.
In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds.
Chances are you'll end up working for one.

Common Forum / Real Life Shrek Existed !!! :O
« on: August 02, 2012, 12:32:37 AM »

For those of you who don’t know who Shrek is, let me explain: he is a big and not so attractive green ogre in this animated movie that goes by the same name. Yes he is a fictional character, but imagine the real lif
e Shrek. He actually existed! The French Maurice Tillet, born 1903, was better known as the “Freak Ogre of the Ring” because he was a professional wrestler.

But why he got compared to Shrek is because he had Acromegaly, a disease that made his bones grow uncontrollably large, so for many people he looked weird, and many would say scary and ugly like Shrek. But as Shrek he was a charismatic guy.

( search his name in Google images , u will find more pictures )

Common Forum / Report on "Corporate personalities of Bangladesh"
« on: July 29, 2012, 09:04:15 PM »
Literature Reviews

Md Shafayet Alam
Deputy Head Of Marketing
Huawei Technologies
(Bangladesh) LTD

Name: Md Shafayet Alam
Hometown: Barisal
SSC -   Oxford Mission High school, Barisal
HSC -   Govt Syed Hatem Ali College, Barisal
Honors -   B.M. College, Barisal (Marketing)
MBA -    Asian University, Dhaka, Bangladesh (Marketing)

About him

Confident, competent, creative, and achievement- oriented independent person. Extremely service- oriented with a unique combination of initiative, inter-personal skill, strategic thinking ability and results-oriented success in a fast-paced environment. Having a “can-do” attitude and a dynamic approach to problem solving with the ability to think and take decisions in a timely and effective manner with a good team spirit and leadership quality.
He is the person for whom Huawei Technologies reached at high in our country. He covered all telecom companies under Huawei. Most promising thing is that according to his planning Huawei successfully replaced all equipments of BTCL with Huawei’s equipments.


Marketing, Sales, Strategy, Leadership, Networking, Branding and Identity management, corporate affairs management.


Huawei Technologies
Deputy Head of Marketing

ZTE Corporation
Sales & Marketing Manager

Sales & Marketing Manager

Sales & Marketing Manager

Sales & Marketing Manager

Sales & Marketing Manager

Sales & Marketing Manager

Sales & Marketing Manager

Siemens telecom
Sales & Marketing Manager

Sales & Marketing Executive

Anwar Group
Sales & Marketing Executive

Abul Khayer Group
Junior Executive, Marketing

Common Forum / Your Participation Is Warmly Welcomed
« on: July 25, 2012, 02:55:43 AM »
Be a part
DIU Social Business Student Forum

What is Student forum?

Student forum is a Part of Social Business Cell Which Works to Make
social Welfare & Social Awareness among the Student as well as Youth


Making strong SB movement in Bangladesh as well as International

To explore the power of SB concept among the student community of BD

Change the World


•       Arrange Motivational Programs to motive student & youth
•       Participate Distinguish Social activities
•       Participate student or Youth Related SB and other research with SB cell
•       Arrange SB project competitions at different educational institute
         among the country
•       Arrange SB workshop at distinguish school & college to share SB concept
•       Publish SB Journal which include news of our current activities ,
        National & International SB activities , Motivational report , Article
        or Message from important person home & abroad and many more
•        Developed page in DIU Forum , social web ,Daffodil blog, Facebook
         Twitter , G+ etc to make SB & social awareness
•       Arrange  seminar on SB at distinguish Department  to sent the concept of SB
•       Develop a Personal Website
•       Making  a strong youth network\ Communication .
•       Many more

Go to this link & like our page

Thank you

DIU Social Business Student Forum
Powered by
DIU Social Business Cell
Faculty of Business & Economics
Daffodil International University

Common Forum / Be a part of DIU Social Business Cell
« on: July 22, 2012, 01:25:38 AM »
Talk on "Social Business: The Role of Teachers and Students"

To Change the World
To do something for Social Welfare
To remove Social Problems
To be Self-Satisfied
To be a good Entrepreneur

A talk is organized to form DIU Social Business Forum
Every interested person who are highly keen to do something different
are requested to join the program...

Yunus Centre Team and DIU top management will join this program.

Date   :  24th July, 2012 (Tuesday)
Time   :  11:00am
Venue:   DIU Auditorium
              Prince Plaza Campus

Organized by
DIU Social Business Cell
Faculty of Business & Economics

While I was surfing on Facebook I found it !

Public Event · By সচেতন নাগরিক

Share with your Friends and family
and if you can, please participate.

Common Forum / Few words by Princess Diana
« on: July 19, 2012, 12:54:08 AM »
Call me Diana, not Princess Diana.

Don't call me an icon. I'm just a mother trying to help

I'd like to be a queen in people's hearts but I don't see myself being queen of this country.

Everyone needs to be valued. Everyone has the potential to give something back

I want to walk into a room, be it a hospital for the dying or a hospital for the sick children, and feel that I am needed. I want to do, not just to be

HIV does not make people dangerous to know, so you can shake their hands and give them a hug : Heaven knows they need it.

I love to hold people's hands when I visit hospitals, even though they are shocked because they haven't experienced anything like it before, but to me it is a normal thing to do

Anywhere I see suffering, that is where I want to be, doing what I can

i don't want expensive gifts; I don't want to be bought. I have everything I want. I just want someone to be there for me, to make me feel safe and secure

Hugs can do great amounts of good - especially for children

I don't go by the rule book. I lead from the heart, not the head

I think the biggest disease the world suffers from in this day and age is the disease of people feeling unloved. I know that I can give love for a minute, for half an hour, for a day, for a month, but I can give. I am very happy to do that, I want to do that

Its my pleasure to share with you that  Mr. Md. Sabur Khan, Chairman, Board of Trustees Daffodil International University will appear at the popular talk show “Trityo Mtra” on Channel i  tonight at 1.00am ( July 10,2012) and the program will repeat at 9.45 am tomorrow morning (July 10,2012).

This is a IT related Talk show, where our Honorable Chairman has shared his dynamic & directional ideas in the Education & IT arena in perspective of Bangladesh.

You are invited to tune the channel accordingly to enjoy the discussion.

Common Forum / Confused :S
« on: June 18, 2012, 09:14:59 PM »
1. If all the nations in the world are in debt, where did all the money go?

2. When dog food is new with improved taste, who tests it?

3. If the “black box” flight recorder is never damaged during a plane crash, why isn’t the whole airplane made out of that stuff?

4. Who copyrighted the copyright symbol?

5. Why do people say “you’ve been working like a dog” when dogs just sit around all day??

Common Forum / Think and think again
« on: June 14, 2012, 02:35:42 PM »
Hello Everyone
After having a bitter experience I'm writing this.

*Please think and think again before doing something or taking any steps.
*Don't judge anyone depending on a couple of person.
*If you have any opinion or problem then go through the chain, don't write/post anywhere.
*If you've done any mistake then apologize for that.
*Don't argue with anyone.
*Most importantly, before saying or writing anything please think what will be it's impact.

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