Self Development Workshops

[ymislam]

Dear All,

For those who wish to develop themselves and create goals, the article in the following link may help:


http://www.scribd.com/doc/30390958/Does-one-need-a-goal-or-outcome-for-life-on-earth


After reading the article, share your thoughts with the rest here.

-Yousuf

[shibli]

Each one of us has feelings of inferiority that we are not good enough. We think that we are not as good as other people, and we feel that we are not good enough to acquire and enjoy the things that we want in life. Very often, we feel that we don’t deserve good things. Even if we do work hard and achieve some worthwhile objectives, we believe that we are not really entitled to our successes, and we often engage in behaviors that sabotage our successes.

The fact is that we deserve every good thing that we are capable of acquiring as the result of the application of our talents. The only real limitation on what we can be and have is our absence of desire. If we want something badly enough, nothing in the world can stop us from getting it, if we are willing to persist long enough and hard enough. Over and over, we find that our beliefs, more than anything else, act as the brakes on our capacities. We have high hopes and dreams and aspirations, but we let doubts creep in and undermine our competence and effectiveness.

We need to develop our beliefs about ourselves to the point where they serve us every day in every way. Men and women who accomplish extraordinary things are just ordinary people who developed themselves mentally to the point where they were able to overcome the obstacles that stood in their way, and they kept on keeping on until the goal was attained.

Psychologist William James of Harvard University said that beliefs create the actual fact. The reason for this is because we always act in a manner consistent with our innermost beliefs and convictions. If you believe yourself capable of accomplishing good things, you will walk and talk and act like it. Your behaviors will actually make your beliefs a reality.

The most harmful beliefs that you can have are what we call self-limiting beliefs. These are beliefs about yourself, most of which are not true; but they hold you back nonetheless. Sometimes you, or others, will say that you cannot achieve certain goals because you did not get enough education. Sometimes you will say that it is because of your gender or race or age or the state of the economy.

Many people blame their parents or their bosses or their families or their current relationships for their failure to make progress in life. Others say that there is no opportunity in their particular area or their particular field. Some complain because they have no money. Others complain because they received poor grades in school or did not go to, or finish, university. Still others say that they have never had a natural talent or ability for a particular field.

The humorist Josh Billings once said, it ain’t what a person knows what hurts him/her. It’s what a person knows what isn’t true. It isn’t the actual truth about yourself and your abilities that hurts you; it’s the things that you consider to be true and that have no basis in truth.

The starting point to change your beliefs is to get up the courage to question them seriously. Question your basic premises. Check your assumptions. Ask yourself, What assumptions am I making about myself or my situation that might not be true?

What Beliefs Might You Have That Are Holding You Back?

Think about them. Remember, most of our self-limiting beliefs have no basis whatsoever in fact. They are based on information and ideas that we have accepted as true, sometimes in early childhood, and to the degree to which we accept them as true, they become true for us.

Your beliefs about reality are based on a thousand influences, many of which began even before you were aware of what was going on. You have beliefs that are deep and beliefs that are shallow. Deep beliefs, with regard to your religion or your political party or your family, or especially yourself, are very hard to change. Shallow beliefs are easily changed. And many of your beliefs are in fact very shallow. They have no substance to them whatsoever. If you challenge them hard enough, you’ll find that they are made of tissue paper. They’ll simply blow away.

You can always tell what your true values and beliefs are by looking at your actions. It isn’t what you say or wish or hope or intend that demonstrates what you really believe. It’s only what you do. It’s only the behaviors that you engage in. It’s only the actions that you choose to undertake. Your values and beliefs are always expressed in your actions and behaviors.

And out of your actions come all of the elements of your life. You are where you are what you are because of what you’ve said and done in the past.

The wonderful thing is this. Each of us is in a state of becoming. Many years ago, a teacher of mine said that each human being is a becomingness. You are constantly evolving toward the fulfillment of your individual possibilities. You can become anything you want by sitting down at the keyboard of your own mental computer and beginning the process of programming in new beliefs.

Once you’ve clearly decided on the person you would like to become, you are on the path toward developing new beliefs. You then discipline yourself each day to behave exactly as you would if you were already that person.

That simple technique, the act as if technique, is extraordinarily powerful. The more you act like the person you want to be, the more consistent your attitude will be with that person’s. Your attitude will have the back-flow effect of affecting your expectations. Positive expectations will have the back-flow effect of building beliefs that are consistent with them. And your beliefs will exert an influence on your values.

You have no limitations on your potential except for those that you believe you have. If you would like to win, but think you can’t, It’s almost certain you won’t. Life’s battles don’t always go To the stronger or faster man, But sooner or later the man who wins Is the man who thinks he can.

People succeed not because they have remarkable characteristics or qualities. The most successful people are quite ordinary, just like you and me. Most of us start off poor and confused. We spend many years getting some sort of direction in our lives. But the turning point comes when we begin to believe that we have within us that divine spark that can lead us onward and upward to the accomplishment of anything that we really want in life.

By Brian Tracy

[fatema_diu]

Dear Sir

Salam. I am not a regular user of the forum, so i missed many occasions and opportunities  to share ideas.

This 'self development workshop' on 'presentation skill, arise a question in my mind ( as I am a teacher of English Department).

Students some time ask me how to do well ?- while facing defense or while facing any project.

I generally guide them being a teacher of language- would you please guide me, being a Teacher of science and engineering- what more should i  emphasize to direct them prperly for their presentation?

Fatema Begum Laboni
Lecturer
Department of English

[bidita]

i would like to join any sort of self development program that DIU may offer.........

[shibli]

There is a principle of success called the power of Association. It basically means that you either hold yourself back or improve yourself based on the people you spend time with the most, because their values, ideas and directions are always influencing your own.

Another proven fact of life is that a strong and stable family environment IS an advantage. If you happen to have a good relationship with your parents or parent, brothers, sisters, and children, and your family life has included helpful values, then you DO have an advantage, there is no doubt about that-----and you should value it and continue it.

But if you do not have this advantage, you will have to work harder on your thinking, your own values and your own decisions...

Here lies the importance of counseling, peer advice and guidance from parents and teachers.

[shibli]

The power of association in human life is huge. If you often associate with loads of friends without focusing on your own specific objectives, you might be carried away by your friends' missions n visions. Successful people know what they are doing and why they r doing so. Your association with them can make your life out of the track...i have seen many of my friends' life happening so.

If a student is poor in a particular course, he or she should associate with those friends who are good at that course to improve himself/herself by taking help or even by spending time n speaking to them. One of my friends always wanted to do BCS cadre job, but none of his friends was interested in BCS. Finally, my friend didn't even appear at BCS exam. We are influnced by the values, ideas and directions of our friends and the people we are associated with. The mission and vision and activities of a Computer Science student will be normally different from a student of Journalism and English. So, if a student is not cautious about choosing his or her friends, he or she might be carried away from his or her own objectives and goals.    

[raju]

Dear All,

It’s my pleasure to express that CDC is going to introduce online “self evaluation” test shortly where you will be able to find out your strength and weakness to develop further. It’s all about achieving job winning competency and life skills!

Please note that SDP will be available also from next semester.

Regards,

Raju

[shibli]

According to scientists, keeping in continuous contact with people can get addictive. So, students should refrain themselves from being addictive personality.

[kazi shahin]

We need to know whether we are in the right way or there are problem. Often we misjudge about ourselves, even we are not ready to get advice from others.

So, what would be the solution to judge ourselves? Self evaluation is very important to judge ourselves.

Thank you, CDC to give this opportunity to do our evaluation.

Cheers  CDC  !!!

[farzanamili]

Dear Shibli Sir,
Your writings always influence me to do better! Specially your recent posts in this fourth page has given me more positivity about actions & words which can create better or desired future whether that is personal life or career.......thank you very much for such impressive posts....I'll try to make use of these techniques.

[shibli]

Thank you, Madam.

@ shahin, we, people, learn by making mistakes, some learn by experience, some try to learn from peer advice while others never learn, they like to go to 'Bel tola' again and again...so, we need programming in mind, first of all, "make habits, then habits will make you" because Dr. Samual Johnson said the chains of the habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken"

As a mater of fact, some of your time should be deliberately and wisely invested in self-improvement. You are the only thing in life over which you have a great deal of control. You are the one asset that can never be lost or stolen. Doesn't it make sense to invest time and money in improving that asset?

Some quotations to follow:

"Laws are never as effective as habits." Adlai Stevenson

"If you create an act, you create a habit.
If you create a habit, you create a character.
If you create character, you create a destiny" Emile Herzog, French Novelist

[shibli]

If we want to know ourselves, we should know the purpose of every work we do..ask ourselves always-what and why??? Co-relate our missions with our vision. A fool has got no purpose of doing anything....

[bidita]

Life become so much grateful because our teachers concern about our life and every step they suggest what is a purpose of life and our destination and they also try to focus that we are the one and we will be the best person in this world when we attention our studies first and balance our extra curricular activities...

Thank you all for being with us.... 

[shibli]

Students should deliberately and wisely invest some of their time in self-improvement. Thus, they can assess their SWOT(strength, weakness, opportunity and threat) and write them down on e-portfolio. Only having a purpose of every activity in mind won't make them successful unless and until they carry it every moment to fulfill. Their sense of purpose will drive and pursue them to finish their daily responsibilities.So, i think they can write "To do" list everyday or very week in their e-portfolio and accomplish them accordingly. Teachers can check their portfolio every month and advise them as such whether they are on the right track..

[farzanamili]

yes, this listing works! I want to share one thing that when I was studying in Fourth year in University of Chittagong,that time Department of Law was not opened by DIU but I had aim to be a lecturer of Law in DIU. In the mean time,Department started its journey & now I am a Lecturer here! So my dream came true! If you chase after one thing whole-heartedly,insha Allah one day you will get it...just keep faith on your dream & have patience & of course do something original to fulfil your dream....:)...May Allah help us in fulfilling our dream...