Advices of Hakim ul Ummat

[BRE SALAM SONY]

    By Committing Sin the Desire for It Increases

    It is a philosophical fact that strength is added to that faculty which is regularly used. Thus, by using the gaze in the wrong place one does not become satisfied, but the urge to again use the gaze wrongfully becomes entrenched and gains strength. One should not be fooled by the temporary satisfaction gained after looking, for, it is short-lived.

    By way of example, a person in the habit of chewing tobacco gains temporary relief after chewing it. Later on, the desire to chew again is increased and becomes stronger.

    Another example is when a tree is watered, the water disappears from sight after a short while. The water has not really disappeared, the branches and leaves will draw from it making them stronger and the roots will also gain strength from it. Thus, a person who acts on his [impermissible] impulses is not decreasing his desires but is actually watering them (giving them strength).

[BRE SALAM SONY]

Appreciation of The Wives

For two reasons husbands should appreciate their wives at all times:

(1) A wife is like a captive unto the husband and it is unmanly and cowardice to ill-treat a captive.

(2) Appreciate her because of the din. Both of you are Muslims. Like you, she also performs dini actions and one does not know who among you has been more accepted by Allah. This is not a general rule that a woman is lower than a man in every aspect. It is highly possible that by Allah she holds the same position as the man or even higher! Do not think low of the womenfolk. Allah Most High accepts the seemingly small and insignificant deeds of the helpless, broken hearted person and raises her status through it (more than the husband).

[BRE SALAM SONY]

Constancy in dhikr and its benefits

Be constant in dhikr even if the heart and mind is not present and there is no enjoyment. In due course the dhikr will develop into such a habit, there will be no repose without it. For example, initially when a person smokes a huqqa (smoking pipe), he experiences giddiness, nausea and vomiting. By regularly smoking, this condition changes and now he cannot do without it, so much so that even if he doesn’t have food, he must have a few drags on the huqqa.

On another occasion Hadrat said (on the same subject):

Although not felt, benefit (from dhikr) is achieved from the very beginning. A child grows daily, but it can never be determined how much the child has grown for a particular day. One can gauge the growth of the child only after a considerable amount of time has passed by comparing his present condition to the previous. A major difference will be noted. In the same way, dhikr, in the initial stages seems to be devoid of benefit, but actually he is receiving benefit all the time (without realizing it).

Once Hadrat said:

Drops of water continuously fall on a stone resulting in eventually a hole being formed. Can it be said that the last drop formed the hole on the stone? Never! The first drop was just as effective as the last drop in forming the hole. Never consider the first drop to be useless. In the same way, the first day’s dhikr that one considered to be without benefit is undoubtedly beneficial! The special (spiritual) condition that has been achieved is the result of the first dhikr just as the latter dhikrs