a. Unfairness â€“ We believe that we have been treated unfairly. We tell ourselves that we deserve more, and we buy into this story that someone has wronged us.
b. Lost - We feel that we have lost something that we have identified ourselves with. Feelings, pride, money.
c. Blame â€“ We blame other people or external situations for having caused our loss, for taking advantage of us unfairly. The blame often only resides in our heads and is a product of our imagination. We fail to see things from other peopleâ€™s perspectives. We become deeply selfish.
d. Pain - We experience pain, mental distress, and anxiety. The pain causes physical responses in our body, which disturbs our natural energy flow and state of well-being.
e. Focus - We focus on the thing we donâ€™t want, and energize it by complaining about it passionately, and repeating it to as many people who will listen. This creates a downward spiral of anger.
The interesting thing is that if there are two angry people unhappy with each other, both people feel a sense of loss, unfairness, pain and the need to blame the other person. Who is right? The answer is.........What?